I think what we are really doing is forgiving our self for any guilt, blame, or shame we have taken on. Due to conditioning of societal ways and judgments from others, patterns are created. With each new incident these patterns are repeated. It’s how we perceive the circumstances in our lives that determine what patterns emerge.
If we realize that what others do they are doing to themselves, and what we do we are doing to ourselves, we only have to forgive ourselves and peace will emerge. Love and light on this beautiful day.