Our personality, experiences, and conditioning determine how we see each situation we encounter. All emotions and our resulting behavior tie back to either love or fear. If we are acting in kindness, compassion, forgiveness, happiness, or joy, we are acting out of love. Behaviors of anger, jealously, hatred, envy, or control come from fear based emotions.
Although we are a dualistic species, we have a choice. We can remain more in the ego side of life, which is fear based, and place a judgement on each person we meet and each occurrence we face to determine if it is good or bad, right or wrong, light or dark. On the other hand, we can face everything from love and release judgement of people and circumstances. This allows us to always show compassion and kindness. We make a choice to always see the good in every person and in every event and forgive actions that come from fear.
There is however, a third choice. That is balance, the middle way. Balance between our masculine and feminine energies, fear and love, light and dark, right and wrong. Balance to me is simply living your truth, always. Your truth will present itself through your intuition or gut feeling, through messages from guides, through feelings of complete peace. It comes to you without thought, analysis, or logic. It is delivered to you if you are open to receive it.
Because everything is energy, balance is being in the flow of energy. The use a river as an analogy, some days the river is very turbulent and fast flowing. On these days you can jump in and choose to fight the turbulent waters, struggling to win this competition against the forces of nature and attempt to conquer it by coming out alive. You can avoid the turbulent water altogether and pretend it is not there. Leaving the scene of the river and deciding not to be a part of the water’s flow would be a passive approach.
The middle way, or balance, might look like riding out the turbulence in order to flow with the water, but doing so in a more balanced way. Maybe you are in an appropriate boat for this body of water wearing a life jacket that offers some safety, but still allows you to flow within the fury. Another approach might be to just sit by the river watching it and taking in its beauty until the rolling waves settle, having a respect for the powerful water in all its glory, and learning from it through observation.
Because balance is different for each and every individual and is not static, the choice you make will be determined by where you are on your journey. Choosing balance will allow you to look at your own truth to determine the best choice for this situation. If you have always been one to take the competitive route and always conquer every situation, maybe balance would look more like sitting on the shore and observing the powerful water and gaining appreciation for it in a new way. On the other hand, if you usually choose a more passive path of leaving the situation all together, maybe this time you stay on the shore and watch the turbulent water flow in all its glory, gaining a new respect for it.
If you have been the one to always sit on the shore and watch the aggressive flow without engaging in it, to bring you to balance this time you may either need to get in the boat wearing the life jacket to endure the tumultuous waters so that you can make peace with it. Waiting for the waters to settle down some before entering might also be where you find your balance. However, if you have learned from the water all you can learn, maybe leaving the situation all together and finding another route or path is your truth.
Again, there is no right or wrong, good or bad, wise of ignorant decision. The only decision should be to live your truth at that moment, to act accordingly to what would bring you back to balance. No one else can tell you what decision to make because no one else knows your truth. Open up to your truth, to receiving it and knowing it fully. Find your balance in every encounter. It will set you free.
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